The short answer: if you are getting through daily life but feel stuck, are dealing with a setback, or are facing a hard decision and want practical steps forward, a life coach is a good place to start. If you are struggling to get through the day, your low mood or anxiety is getting worse, or you are thinking about harming yourself, start with a counsellor, a psychologist or a doctor. Some people benefit from both.
I am Kyle Daniels, a life coach and performance psychology consultant in Phuket. Before I focused on coaching, I spent seven years working as a counsellor. I have seen both sides, and I have seen people lose months because they started in the wrong place. This guide is here to help you choose well.
What does a life coach do?
A life coach helps you understand what is happening, decide what you want, and take action. The work looks forward. We look at your situation, the patterns that keep repeating, and the beliefs that drive them, and then we build practical steps that you take in your real life between sessions.
Coaching works well for people facing a breakup or divorce, a business that failed, a job loss, a career change, the pressure of leading a team, or the loneliness that can come with starting again in a new country.
What does a counsellor do?
A counsellor or psychologist helps you work through emotional pain and mental health difficulties. That can include depression, anxiety, trauma and grief that is making daily life hard. Clinical professionals can assess and treat mental health conditions. A coach cannot, and a good coach will tell you so.
Signs that coaching is the right first step
You are functioning day to day, but you feel stuck or off course.
The same problem keeps coming back in different parts of your life.
You are facing a decision and you keep going around in circles.
You want someone to help you think clearly and hold you to what you decide.
You have done some reading or courses, they helped for a while, and then the old pattern returned.
Signs to start with a counsellor, psychologist or doctor
You are finding it hard to get out of bed, eat, sleep or work for weeks at a time.
Panic, anxiety or low mood are getting worse rather than better.
You are using alcohol or other substances to cope.
You are having thoughts of harming yourself or ending your life.
If you are in immediate danger in Thailand, call 1669 for emergency medical help, or the Thai mental health hotline on 1323.
Can you have both?
Yes. Many people work with a counsellor on the emotional side and a coach on the practical side, such as rebuilding routines, returning to work or making a big decision. When I believe a client would benefit from clinical support alongside our work, I say so honestly and help them find the right person in Phuket.
How to choose a life coach in Phuket
Anyone can call themselves a coach. Before you book, ask these five questions:
What is your training? Look for a background in psychology or a recognised coaching qualification.
What kind of people do you usually work with? You want someone with real experience of situations like yours.
What happens if my problem is more than coaching? A good coach has a clear answer and knows where to refer you.
Is it confidential? The answer should be yes.
How does it work and what does it cost? You should get a clear answer before you commit.
Questions people ask
Is life coaching confidential?
Yes. What you share in a session stays between you and your coach.
Do I need to be in a good place to start coaching?
No. Many people start coaching in the hardest season of their life. What matters is that you are able to take steps between sessions.
Can sessions happen online?
Yes. I see clients in person in Phuket and online by video.
About the author
Kyle Daniels is a life coach and performance psychology consultant based in Phuket, Thailand. He holds two psychology degrees, has seven years of counselling experience, and has worked with Olympians, business leaders and people going through hard seasons of life. He has given two TEDx talks.
If you are not sure which kind of support you need, read more about life coaching in Phuket or book a free 45-minute call. You will leave with a clearer view of what is going on, whether or not we work together.

